02/05/19 - Tip 004
Parenting: providing for, caring for, loving nurturing and correcting.
Those are
the attributes that we are well aware of, now consider "creating a safe space to talk."
Creating a safe space for critters, so they can tell someone what's happening to
them. Imagine how difficult it can be to tell, someone is
hurting you to a person that is also hurting you. What
if in the mind of your child there is difficulty finding the difference between
the pain of being sexually assaulted and the pain of being ridiculed, beat or
degraded.
Telling them that they can talk to you isn't enough. Being in a space that
is comfortable and free of agony, even if it is well intent agony is ideal.
And we
have to create it.
Allowing time to elude us and then find out months or years later that our
babies had been assaulted, bullied or mistreated by another adult or
child can be heartbreaking.
And let me be the one to say it; there
is nothing more painful than for your child to tell you that they were hurt
when they were young, and they didn't
tell you.
Create
a space where your critters can tell you what's going on in their lives, where
the only emotion that is present in that space is love.
B.
Yvette Myers